Cacophonous my weeping soul is!!!! Anger, rage, murderous intentions and then, a giant wave of sorrow!!! It is the helplessness that drives the psyche mad after such a horrendous incident has taken place.
The Delhi gang rape has opened the lid off the cauldron of fury!
The Delhi gang rape has opened the lid off the cauldron of fury!
Put them to death!!! Hang them!!! Throw them to the furious public who are most likely to pounce upon them like hungry wolves or beat them into pulp!!! Castrate them!!! Amputate!!! Blind them and let them rot in the hellhole called jail for the rest of their lives!!! A plethora of the goriest of punishments pour forth as the girl struggles to come back to life. I too wish for a torturous treatment meted out to them so that those filthy minds feel for once, what it is to be at the receiving end of sheer brutality!
But once the storm has passed, the mind questions justification. Does the problem end here? A 23 year old woman's suffering would have been, sort of, avenged............I say sort of, because, no matter what is done now, her tormented psyche and physique, can never be the same again! But does this amputate that gangrenous, festering, putrefying limb called Rape???
NO!!!
Rape is NOT exactly a medium of sexual gratification. It is.....A TOOL OF REVENGE............FOR A MAN (ACTUALLY A COWARD)...... WHO CAN BULLY A WOMAN USING HIS MALE STRENGTH! (GANG RAPISTS ARE EVEN WORSE....THEY CANT EVEN DO THIS ALONE!!!)
If we analyse the aftermath of a rape incident, the victim's life is destroyed forever, for it is not just the physique that has gone through brutal torture, but also the psyche! But more than the pain that the victim has to bear, it is the tag of 'disgrace' bound not only around the victim but the whole family as well, which becomes a helluva good reason for many to use rape as a tool of vengeance! Why family? Demons in human form, claiming to be from the 'elite upper caste', 'defame' an entire community by using this tool against ONE, totally innocent girl!!!
But I ask you, who is it that is 'assigning' this disgrace? Whom does a rape victim's family shy away from? Who forces them to 'hang their heads in shame'? The society!!! And who compromises the society? You and me, right? So, that means, it is US who are indirectly, the root cause of the very happening of a rape!!! Just think, if the whole aspect of bringing disgrace or defaming didn't rest solely upon the 'the dignity of a woman', would it have such importance? Why should the family's dignity not be measured also, by the grace (or disgrace) of a man???
Rape is also an indirect outcome of male dominance, which has its roots in childhood. How a father treats the children's mother, and other women of the family, is the first lesson children get to imbibe from. Stereotyped roles for sons and daughters, where the sons are given to understand and believe that they have an advantage over the girls, and that they can dominate over them is the next stage, where they get to PRACTICE what they have imbibed. This carries on to their adulthood and marital life as well, resulting in enslavement, abuse and yes, in the extreme case, rape!
We as a society are also largely responsible for proliferating the horrors faced by a rape victim. We might sympathize with them and feel 'oh so sorry' for them initially. But to accept them back into the society later, give them jobs and let them live a life of dignity is still a tall order in the Indian society! Once a stigma, always a stigma!
So, while it is cool to sit at home and discuss, comment, protest and blame the police, the government and the law,WE also need to CHANGE!
It is APPALLING to know that a girl is being raped every 22 minutes!!! We Indians have to do SOMETHING to bring a reform!
Let us do our bit and begin at home!
Let us, as Moms and Dads....
But once the storm has passed, the mind questions justification. Does the problem end here? A 23 year old woman's suffering would have been, sort of, avenged............I say sort of, because, no matter what is done now, her tormented psyche and physique, can never be the same again! But does this amputate that gangrenous, festering, putrefying limb called Rape???
NO!!!
Rape is NOT exactly a medium of sexual gratification. It is.....A TOOL OF REVENGE............FOR A MAN (ACTUALLY A COWARD)...... WHO CAN BULLY A WOMAN USING HIS MALE STRENGTH! (GANG RAPISTS ARE EVEN WORSE....THEY CANT EVEN DO THIS ALONE!!!)
If we analyse the aftermath of a rape incident, the victim's life is destroyed forever, for it is not just the physique that has gone through brutal torture, but also the psyche! But more than the pain that the victim has to bear, it is the tag of 'disgrace' bound not only around the victim but the whole family as well, which becomes a helluva good reason for many to use rape as a tool of vengeance! Why family? Demons in human form, claiming to be from the 'elite upper caste', 'defame' an entire community by using this tool against ONE, totally innocent girl!!!
But I ask you, who is it that is 'assigning' this disgrace? Whom does a rape victim's family shy away from? Who forces them to 'hang their heads in shame'? The society!!! And who compromises the society? You and me, right? So, that means, it is US who are indirectly, the root cause of the very happening of a rape!!! Just think, if the whole aspect of bringing disgrace or defaming didn't rest solely upon the 'the dignity of a woman', would it have such importance? Why should the family's dignity not be measured also, by the grace (or disgrace) of a man???
Rape is also an indirect outcome of male dominance, which has its roots in childhood. How a father treats the children's mother, and other women of the family, is the first lesson children get to imbibe from. Stereotyped roles for sons and daughters, where the sons are given to understand and believe that they have an advantage over the girls, and that they can dominate over them is the next stage, where they get to PRACTICE what they have imbibed. This carries on to their adulthood and marital life as well, resulting in enslavement, abuse and yes, in the extreme case, rape!
We as a society are also largely responsible for proliferating the horrors faced by a rape victim. We might sympathize with them and feel 'oh so sorry' for them initially. But to accept them back into the society later, give them jobs and let them live a life of dignity is still a tall order in the Indian society! Once a stigma, always a stigma!
So, while it is cool to sit at home and discuss, comment, protest and blame the police, the government and the law,WE also need to CHANGE!
It is APPALLING to know that a girl is being raped every 22 minutes!!! We Indians have to do SOMETHING to bring a reform!
Let us do our bit and begin at home!
Let us, as Moms and Dads....
- treat each other with respect and dignity
- bring up sons and daughters with equal love and care
- cultivate high morals so that children imbibe from us
- teach sons to respect women and treat them with dignity
- not bring up daughters with the sole intention of marrying them off but rather, as a permanent part of the family even after marriage
- teach daughters to be bold and alert and well-versed in some form of self defence
Let us, as Boys....
- respect girls and not treat them as objects to be victimized
- not expect any advantage over girls
- not ACCEPT DOWRY in marriage but rather, accept the girl, and together, create a beautiful world of your own with contributions from both (such a shame on YOUR INTELLIGENCE AND CAPABILITY, when you, as a boy claim dowry!!!)
Let us, as a Society...
- respect women, especially in public places
- condemn such atrocities wholeheartedly, whether in the city or in villages
- cooperate with the authorities in order to catch the culprits
- lend all our support to those who are victimized, rich or poor, and help them rebuild a life, instead of stigmatizing and singling them out
- join hands and HELP A VICTIM, AT THE SCENE OF THE CRIME, INSTEAD OF STANDING AND STARING!!!
LET US BE THE CHANGE THAT WE WISH TO SEE..................!!!
LET US LEAVE BEHIND A SOCIETY THAT HAS CHANGED FOR THE BETTER.....................!!!
2 comments:
but in societies where all your suggestions are implemented there are rape case to be reported...what do you have to say about that
@Anonymous...good question! I have read about the situation in many countries, especially the poor ones, where rape statistics are high! In most cases, it is the factor of dominance that takes precedence as a trigger. Of course, there are cases where sexual gratification is the reason. Even most of the those, when analysed, will lead to an underlying childhood abuse or troubled family.
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